Okay I just gotta vent a bit…
the other day at work i got asked for my name, since I’m pretty new there. Telling the guy my name’s Robin he asked if that wasn’t a boy’s name. I murmured to myself ‘that’s the point’ but corrected myself into ‘Well, actually it’s a unisex name…’ He looked a bit confused but went on with his work. A few minutes later he came back. ‘But you’re female, right?’ he asked. I didn’t know how to answer but he got on ‘I mean, because there are people that don’t feel right in ther body, that’s why I’m asking’ And I felt super relieved. I’m not out at work so acting like a girl and getting all the sexist girl shit is super exhausting.
Anyway. I felt like I could tell that guy how I identified and I said ‘not really, more like something inbetween’ and he even seemed to understand that and I was really happy for a moment. Then he asked me what inbetween meant for me and I wanted to tell him about how I wanted to start hormone therapy and get Top surgery. But he interrupted me and asked ‘No, I mean like, in your pants?’ That was the first time hat ever happened to me, because I’m mostly out to my friends who don;t really care and just accept it.
I always kept thinking i’d give some really sassy comeback whenever I get into a situation like this. But somhow i couldn’t. I was like ‘Well… preferably both…’ and he started asking about my lovelife and it felt so awkward to talk to him about that. And whenever I see him I feel as if he were my awkward ex…
So after telling my mum about this all the said was ‘well, you shouldn’t have brought it up at work, you should’ve just said you were a girl’
TL;DR: It’s okay to ask people about their genitals, but god forbid you talk about your gender identity at work. A life lesson brought to you by my mum.
I know this happens to a lot of you guys and I’m not whining I was just super surprised how intense this actually is and I just needed to get this out. Don’t mind me.